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Manuel's avatar

Thank you, Joan

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JOOS's avatar

I LOVE YOU JOAN

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Carol Hayward's avatar

The embrace of each moment.

Thanks Joan

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Steph Clark's avatar

Your words are words, yes, yet they convey so much and I thank you for popping up in my inbox. I took your advice and listened to Toni Packer’s talk you linked from 2005. What a gift. 💗

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Susan's avatar

Joan I love you and this message.❤️

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Julie Berberich's avatar

Thank you for the video!

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Marina Leonelli's avatar

I’m reading Mel’s book, thank you for everything! I hope you can feel all the love so many of us share for you❤️

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Sheila Anderson's avatar

MUCH gratitude!

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BOB MORAN's avatar

Hi Joan, Was there one particular Toni talk title that you got this from?

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Joan Tollifson's avatar

Hi Bob...I'm not sure what you're asking. ??? The title of my article, The Beauty of Silent Listening, was a line in this talk of Toni's that I shared in this post. I wasn't referring to the title of the talk that appears on YouTube, which was probably the title given to it by folks at Springwater, the retreat center Toni founded where others are now carrying on the work.

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BOB MORAN's avatar

I followed the directions and listened to Toni without doing anything else.

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Christina Ronk's avatar

Thank you Joan; so beautiful!!

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mack paul's avatar

Beautiful.

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David Kelley's avatar

I particularly appreciate pointing out how words such as wholeness or boundless aware presence might themselves entice holding concepts or beliefs, when they merely point towards the ineffable. Seeing this can clarify and relax what thought is and does.

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Darien's avatar

I was touched by everything said about the "clouds that seem to obscure .. the open boundlessness" ... how we are caught because of human conditioning in "defending our ideas of who we are" and the desperate escalation of wanting to be praised. And how all this separates us from everything, and everybody - it really cuts us off totally. Wow!

I also was impressed by Toni's account of her and her husband sharing on what to do for their son (I think he had some school problems) - and this whole idea of thinking that we know who our family members "are" and what they "need"- including knowing who we ourselves are. It became clear that knowing in the here and now is very different, and changes all the time. What a great concept. It feels freeing. Although, Lots of work! Undoing of conditionings. I am working on "Awareness is unconditional love" - this is the third time I am noticing this in your writings. I don't know what that means or how it looks like.

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Joan Tollifson's avatar

Happy to hear all this. As for unconditional love, awareness is wholeness--it accepts everything and clings to nothing. It is often compared to a mirror--inseparable from the reflections, allowing them all to come and go freely. That seems very much like the nature of unconditional love. But I always say, don't worry if a particular pointer or word doesn't make sense or doesn't work for you--just let it go.

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BOB MORAN's avatar

I was confused at first because I didn’t see the Toni talk video link. Thanks for your reply, Joan. I’m glad I figured things out.

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Stephen Grundy's avatar

Incisive as always Joan...you consistently cut to the marrow. Top job.🙏

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Tim Gallivan's avatar

You often say that you experience open awareness as unconditional love. For me, it would be a leap of faith or a conceptual overlay to describe it that way.

Please address the sense and feeling of awareness as unconditional love in one of your future posts.

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Joan Tollifson's avatar

I don't think I ever said, "I experience open awareness as unconditional love." I'm pretty sure that what I've said (or at least intended to say) is that unconditional love could be a synonym for awareness. Awareness is wholeness. It accepts everything and clings to nothing. It is often compared to a mirror or a movie screen, inseparable from the reflections or the images in the movie, allowing them all to come and go freely, but not stained or contained by any of them. That all seems very much like the nature of unconditional love.

But awareness is not something that "I" (as the mirage-like separate self) possess or feel. Awareness is what the True I actually IS. The True I is what the word "I" most deeply or fundamentally refers to--if you feel into it.

Perhaps this article on my website would be helpful: https://www.joantollifson.com/writing29.html

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Tim Gallivan's avatar

Yes, understood, a synonym for awareness. Thank you.

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